The boarding school was a public school that followed British school discipline but had a Hindu theme. The British Raj influenced the lifestyles of the wealthy and famous, and education in its colonies was designed to produce bureaucrats. The poor were ignored, and seeing poverty on Bombay's streets was not an encouraging place to live. I was only 12 years old when I became aware of the inequity in wealth distribution. The rich were extremely wealthy, while the poor were extremely impoverished. It's a country where faith in God is unfathomable. I was a God-fearing teenager at the time, and I asked myself a question. "If God is equal, why is one born on a thorny bed, while the other is born on a rosy bed?" My childhood image of God was real and compelling; this divine force was able to create, preserve, and destroy using a magical force that no one could achieve. My understanding was that God was also in charge of keeping account of all transgressions and administering just punishment. He could see and monitor everything at the same time.
My father always referred to ancient India's
educational system as the Gurukul system. The Gurukul educational system is the
pinnacle of Indian learning. A Gurukul is essentially a school where students
live alongside their mentors and receive education, moral values, and life
skills from them. This method of learning has been used in India since ancient
times. With a false Aryan theory that could enslave the Indians, the British
eradicated this system. This boarding school had a touch of the Gurukul system
of education, so some of my father's goals were met.
I planned my strategy on my first day at school
when I was very young. To begin, you must learn to read, write, and comprehend.
I appreciated my father's instruction that reading and writing are taught in
school, and it was my confidence that gave me a fresh start in school in India.
It was an exciting first year because I met new friends, and boarding school
was a big change in my life to keep me motivated. It was difficult to adjust to
a totally different life in a foreign country. However, when one is young, one
is more adaptable to change because one does not carry likes and dislikes. I
was finding my footing and writing my final exams for the year while improving
my study techniques.
Learning methods differed, with a strong emphasis
on memory. It was only later that I realized that memorizing was an ancient
Hindu practice. I was a logical thinker who was unfamiliar with this practice.
The top students included many scholars who memorized the scriptures. This was
known as the "Sanskrit Effect." Dr. James Hartzell, a neuroscientist,
observed in The Scientific American magazine that remembering Vedic mantras
increased the size of the brain's region associated with cognitive function.
The researchers concluded that those who were trained earlier would have
enhanced memory, decision-making, sensory perception, and other abilities. That
explained why memorizing was used as a learning aid in Indian schools.
It was the summer holidays, and a distant relative
picked me up to take me to a small village on India's west coast. The hot
summers were an environmental learning experience as we adapted to the climate.
I was nervously awaiting exam results at the time. The mail was delivered by
the local postman. All of the students from the same school had received their
results and were joyfully smiling and celebrating their success. I never
received my results.
The thrill gradually turned into torture. When I
asked for my results, a villager said, "It is customary that if you do not
receive your results, you must have failed." Because the word failed was
now threatening my very existence as a learner, I had no choice but to accept
failure.
With a lump in my throat, tears in my eyes, and trembling
limbs, I began to walk away. My once-excited legs now barely wanted to move.
"Oh God, what has befallen me? I'm worthless, and all my faith has turned
into an illusion," I thought to myself. Faith had lost its confidence, and
my hope and assurance had turned into a nightmare.
With no parents to console me and being abandoned
in the harsh world, my growing mind and body were tortured by sadness. There
was no one to console me. I missed my mother terribly at the time, and no one
could ever replace her. It was here that I realized how a mother's love heals
her children. I was still aimlessly walking when I remembered my childhood
prayers to the so-called god. I was raised with Sanatan Vedic Hindu Dharma
values. My illiterate mother always encouraged me to light a Diya (lamp) in the
mornings and evenings. I always looked at a few images of Hindu deities and the
Diya burning on the prayer altar and I was given a series of prayers to recite.
As my mind was stimulated by the real world just
then, a magical force took me to a small temple that had been built by my
mother. The image and the teachings of my mother stayed in my mind. I bowed
down on the floor and said to the stone deities, "I had promised to work
hard, and so I did." You did not assist me; my only hope was in you."
I was back on the road to nowhere, tears streaming down my rosy round red
cheeks. Yes! I, too, was losing faith in the divine force. Later, I realized
that it was my mother's love that had saved me from this ordeal.
Just then, a passing saintly man dressed in
religious garb stopped me and said, "Son, don't look so worried."
Purchase a rosary with 108 beads and chant this sacred mantra every day before
retiring to bed. "All of your problems will be resolved." I was taken
aback by the stranger offering me advice. My mind was blown apart by a mystic
thought. Who was this holy man? Still, with a lump in my throat and tears in my
big black eyes, I stepped out and bought the Rosary. My actions had become
robotic as if I had been possessed. As I recall it today, this was my mother's
divine force.
As night fell, sleep was disturbed due to the
summer heat. The bed had bedbugs, and the summer mosquitoes were having a good
time with me. I reflected on my entire life and realized that the only way out
was now closed. I was supposed to find a window or see if the door was locked
so that I could pass through it the righteous way. I fell asleep while
consoling myself by chanting the mantra with the help of a rosary. With the
rising sun, I decided to try again at school. The remaining holidays were spent
slowly, reading and writing, but the joy of childhood had faded, and I saw no
future to make my dreams come true.
Following the holidays and a full day of traveling,
I arrived at a Bombay boarding school. Failure began to haunt me now. All
thoughts of joy, happiness, and excitement had vanished from my ecstatic mind.
The mind was empty, and it desired to undo the past to create a better future.
Now I realize that failure was merely an illusion.
It was registration day, and many parents and
guardians had gathered at the school's gates. I was also there, trying to avoid
my former classmates. I then heard one of my best friends say, "We'll be
together again this coming year." My father informed me that I had been
promoted to the next class." I was initially doubtful because failure does
not allow the brain to prepare for success. What happens next?
Crazy thoughts ran wild in my mind. "There
must be some mistake," I thought. Slowly, the confused mind of my
devastated body began to make sense. Suddenly, I focused all of my efforts on
my speech and asked my friend, "How does your father know that I am also
promoted to the next class?" The friend quickly responded, "Go
register and see for yourself," and ran with excitement to his mother. My
peaceful memories remind me that the most effective healer for her children is
their mother.
Many doubts remained, but when I registered for the
school year, I knew for certain that I would be in the next class. My roll
number had changed, and the previous year's memorandum was missing from this
revised file. I was just beginning to accept reality and facts when another
negative thought began to wreak havoc in my mind. What if it's all a big
mistake, and when they find out, I'll be in the former class? So I told myself
to shut up and forget what had happened.
Unknowingly, I had already created faith by chanting the given mantra. On that fateful night, something told me that my prayer had been answered and that the divine entity had indeed assisted me. The most recent transformation started to take shape, and my advancement was a fulfilling experience that gave me the most delight I will ever know. These moments and memories are treasured alongside all of my accomplishments. I still regard this childhood reality as a gift from a mighty unknown force that has no explanation in the real world.
The years that followed began to fly by. I
progressed from being a mediocre student to a bright young teenager. My first
display of strength was competing with clever students. Most students hired
tutors to improve their grades at an additional cost; however, I accepted the
fighter's attitude and did it myself without the assistance of others; I made
the change in my studies with my own effort, and I could not afford the extra
tuition fees. The thought "I can do it" seemed promising at the time.
Yes, I corrected myself numerous times and discovered methods to remember
things and reason with logic and common sense. Later, I realized that the
school's teachers wanted to make more money and that charging tuition was an
easy way out. Yes, ‘money, money, money' served as a trading goal.
This was my third lesson, and it taught me how to
earn or make money. One could sell their skill, trade, knowledge, or help in
the form of labor in exchange for money, the only versatile medium of exchange.
It reminded me that my father, grandmother, and now the teachers worked in a
field that accepted money as a medium of exchange known as employees.
The boarding school was divided into different
houses, which gave me a sense of belonging. They also became my family and
friends with whom I shared many happy and sad moments. With my excellent
academic progress, I was also a prefect and captain of the house, which served
as basic training in time management and duties. Yes, I recognized that I
possessed the abilities and personality to lead others.
The Sanskrit scholar who was our house master
always provided us with insightful advice, leading our house to annual
competitions. During one of the most critical cricket matches, he asked me,
"Are you playing to win, or are you playing not to lose?" Confusing
but intellectually stimulating, and has won the match, I discussed this
statement at length with him, and in this intellectual discussion, thought was
given to me about this story.
Possess a rational mind.
In a remote village near the mighty Ganga, a group
of people inspired by democratic principles began to evolve in the essence of
free thought. One generation of youths was radicalized and did not want to be
influenced by the old, so they started their own lives, performing random
rituals.
Arranged marriages were no longer acceptable, and
it was decided that only the youth would participate, leaving the older
generation out of the decision-making process. The big day had arrived for the
first wedding of the season, and the youth had gathered the bullock carts and
were about to leave. The bridegroom's younger brother was approached by a very
elderly man in the village. The man was a member of the Panchayat and asked if
he could accompany him to the nearby village with the wedding party. The old
man belonged to the Panchayat, the village justice court, and it was difficult
to say no to him. He attended because of the delicious meals served at that
wedding village. The brother was persuaded and hid the old man in the bullock
cart, leaving him with fun and joy.
When the groom's wedding procession arrived, the
bride's grandfather noticed that there were no elderly people among them. He
was disturbed and wanted to put them to the test on the old wisdom of marriage
success. He summoned the groom's representative, as there were no elderly, and
informed him that it was their village's custom to fulfill a specific condition
before accepting the bride. The representative of the groom accepted the offer
and inquired about the conditions of the wedding. The grandfather explained
that it was very simple. He said that before he took the bride from the
village, they should fill the smallest water well in the village with ghee or
purified butter. It was because the groom's village was abundant in cattle and
should have plenty of butter.
Hearing this, the groom began to run around, asking
his young friends how they would do it. He also insisted that he cannot
postpone the wedding because he is in love. The bridegroom's brother dashed to
the bullock cart, knowing that the old man with wisdom was hidden in it. When
the wise old man heard the condition, he told the brother that it was a simple
condition to meet, suggesting a counter condition without panicking and telling
him to be confident in telling them to remove all the water from the well and
that their supply of gee would have left their village by then.
When the bridegroom informed the bride's
grandfather that the gee was leaving his village and that the water from the
well needed to be removed immediately. The bride's grandfather was convinced
that youth possessed wisdom. Because no one can remove all of the water from
the well, the condition is null and void. He was convinced that they had
elderly companionship, so he ordered the wedding to proceed.
The youths celebrated the wedding with pomp and
ceremony, and the grandfather believed that they were wise when saying goodbye
to their granddaughter. When the newlywed bride arrived in their village,
everyone paid equal respect to the only old man in the bridal party. They decided
to acknowledge the principles, rules, and laws that their village elders had
established over many years based on the theory of truth. The old wisdom of the
elders was once again respected to make the village prosperous.
This story is based on the idea that wisdom comes
with age. It was the first time I was taught to think differently and to use
lateral thinking to solve problems.
Boarding school was a strict and disciplined
environment. Everything had to be paid for. I was given the responsibility of
supervising myself. In a short time, I learned a few things I needed to know.
Money became a medium of exchange for all the necessities. I started learning
about money management. I made a lot of local friends from wealthy families. In
addition to attending such a prestigious school, I was also considered the
child of wealthy parents. I haven't ever told anybody about my past. It was the
first time I realized that the rich expected their children to be well-educated
and successful. Some students worked extremely hard at school to achieve high
grades. They kept me focused and motivated. My parents were compassionate and
loving because I realized that the only woman who loves a poor man is his
mother. Most of us had a few hobbies, and some of us excelled at sports. We
also read quite a few books. I resolved to be like them in the coming years by
imitating them and pretending that the world was mine. Yes, I became the first
imposter. This is when I realized the importance of education. Education opened
doors to more innovative ways of thinking and earning money. It was an
inspiring realization of the importance of friendship. Inspiring friends
instill the right values. Knowledge makes a man unfit to be a slave, so the
cunning British destroyed India's education system.
Naturally, not all friendships are created equal. A
handful of spoiled rich kids were abusing their father's wealth. Bunking
school, smoking in the restrooms, and leaving campus without permission
appeared to be a ritualistic tradition of wealthy scholars. Some bullies were
always looking for attention, and this aspect of life did not appeal to me, so
I avoided them. It was then that I witnessed how the wealthy abused their
financial power.
Intellectually, I managed my money. I learned from
many wealthy people who did not waste their money. Some people are true misers.
While experimenting with money, needs, and desires, I came to the conclusion
that I needed to establish a method to become a careful spender. These values
were instilled in me by one of my friends' families. This friend had a thing
for me, and I used to go over to his house on holidays to spend time with him.
He was the same classmate who told me the good news on my first day of school.
He was a wealthy businessman. His father ran a large business. I recall being
asked who my father was at our first meeting. I lied, saying he was an
international lawyer who worked in Africa and Europe. I realized that if I told
the truth, his son would be discouraged from being my friend. The wealthy socialize
with other wealthy people. When the end justifies the means, dishonesty is
sometimes required.
Our team's goal was to rank at the top of their
division. The hidden abilities began to overflow. I appear to be interested in
music, art, religion, and other activities that have nurtured my young inner
ambitions. The leadership spirit was strengthened, and I was promoted to
platoon commander in the junior wing during military training. I was chosen for
the school basketball team and was named captain. I also entered an art
competition and won several awards over the years. Once I reached the stage to
receive my prize, I always thought of Leonardo DA Vinci. The old habits and
grudges from home died away. The subsequent years were unremarkable due to the boarding
school's strict schedule that provided little time for other social activities.
Again, motivational history lessons inspired me.
Poet Rabindranath Tagore received the Nobel Prize in Literature in 1913 for his
collection Gitanjali, which was published in London in 1912. Bhagwan Buddha was
born into an autocratic family. Buddha, or Siddhartha Gautama, was born in a
small kingdom near the Himalayan foothills around 567 B.C.E. His father was a
Shakya clan chief. Despite coming from wealthy families, all of them chose a
path of righteousness other than a yogic life. My experience with Indian
culture left me with a lasting impression. I held the same views about Sanatan
Dharma whether I was rich or poor.
When I was sixteen, I yearned for my parents. Of course,
letter writing was the only form of communication back then. My childhood
fantasies were always productive. So when I got the letter, I would sit and
think about him for hours. My father wrote the majority of his letters in the
vernacular language he learned from the people he lived with. Some of the
letters were read several times to grasp the moral and philosophical values of
life. I missed my family at many of the school functions where most parents
were present to celebrate their children's accomplishments. I couldn't return
home, and neither could my parents because everything was about money. When I
told my father about my accomplishments, he never complimented me. I didn't
understand his feelings for me at first, however one day, in response to
receiving some of my accolades, he wrote me this story.
The most famous sculptor
In ancient Rome, there was a master sculptor. He
was well known for his sculptures and artwork. He was blessed with both fame
and fortune. He also had a son who admired his father's achievements.
As a young and tender boy, the boy was groomed and
trained in the same craft by his father. This led him to carve beautiful
sculptures like his father until he was old enough to train under his father's
guidance.
In addition to assisting his father, he created
some masterpieces for the city of Rome. He, too, made a name for himself in his
discipline as a result of his father's training. His father was a harsh critic
who constantly pointed out flaws in his work and advised him to do better. With
his father's constant criticism, the boy became irritated and desired
recognition.
Hearing about a major exhibition in Rome, he
prepared himself by making a sculpture in secret for his father and submitting
it under a false name. He concentrated on and improved the critical skill that
his father was most concerned about. Many of the country's most distinguished
sculptors were invited to judge the finest of the exhibits. The boy's father
accepted the invitation and came to evaluate the performances.
While browsing through the exhibits, the father
paused at one that piqued his interest. With a smile, he told his son about the
sculptor's excellent work. The boy was elated and asked his father about his
attraction to that piece of art. He told him about his typical mistakes, as
well as those of others in the exhibition, and how the sculptor of that exhibit
possessed such perfectionist skill.
Upon receiving this compliment, the boy excitedly
informed his father that it was his work done under a false name. He also
informed his father that it was the first time he had received such recognition
for his efforts.
The father paused for a moment before telling his
son. "My son, you have always been talented, but my criticism has turned
you into a perfectionist, despite my admiration, and from now on you will never
better yourself because my praise will slow your pursuit of excellence."
While meditating on this thought, I realized that I
would not receive a pat on the back from my father. Instead, I would have to
better myself to achieve excellence. This aspect of my life has motivated me to
seek out and achieve the highest standards. This realization that the harder I
worked for something, the better I felt when I got it was going to be my
wisdom.
At this school, we were taught about Sanatan
Dharma, the mother of all ideologies, beliefs, and religions. The fellowship
endorsed many symbols, descriptions, images, and idols that represented its
identity. Festivities are always initiated by ceremonies and celebrations and
are in a man's blood. When turned inward, a celebration, sacrifice, worship, or
ritual means cosmic identification and awareness of Sanatan Dharma. Many
ceremonies and celebrations became ritualistic parts of my life because they
were all part of my hostel life.
In one such celebration, my friend's family invited
me to lunch on Diwali, a very auspicious Hindu festival. My friend's father was
a very wealthy man who owned several cotton mills in Bombay. When I entered the
dining area of this grand celebration, I found hundreds of people, old and
young, children and women, seated on the floor. They were waiting to be served
a meal. I was led to the VIP lounge, where I was introduced to the rich and
famous of Bombay. Because the majority of the parents' children attended my
school, I was able to easily mix in with the crowd. My friend just told me that
he was on his way to help distribute treats for the festivities. It struck me
that this wealthy man was walking around with a serving dish, smiling and
offering it to each person on the floor with his right hand. He was dressed in
an all-white loin cloth. I observed the people on the floor greeting him with
folded hands, some touching his toes and saying thank you. It was a tender and
touching scene, and the festivities began with a meal. Some asked for more, and
I could feel the joy in the hearts of the less fortunate. When I saw how people
were eating, I got the impression that they had never eaten such food. When
everything was finished, we sat in the dining room and ate our fair share of
the Diwali feast.
When we returned to school, I asked my friend about
the Diwali meal during one of our lunch breaks. I was surprised to learn that
it was a family tradition in my friend's family to invite every worker and
their family to this celebration. His father would personally serve them food,
and then he would have his meals for the day. A nutritious meal fulfills the
most basic needs of the poor. Most of them will never see such rich and
well-prepared foods in their lives. He continued to tell me how his father had
returned his father's wealth to his people by investing in projects such as
education, healthcare, and social upliftment. I kept listening and absorbing
the key points he made. It was time to develop values and appreciate a wealthy
man who had given so much to his people. I inquired about his family's ancestry
and was surprised to learn that they were the heirs of a large kingdom that was
destroyed by invaders. His uncles served in the Indian parliament. Their
ancestors had a kingly personality. My life demonstrated that many rich
people's children were trained to take over their father's responsibilities.
They were raised to manage duty, values, and money. I never imagined that this
experience would stay with me for years. Humans have coexisted for millions of
years on this earth. The former kings of India looked after their subjects
without money during those years, and that system was still in the blood of
such people.
My academic career was coming to an end. I studied
very hard for my final exams. Here, I assessed my strengths, weaknesses, and
opportunities before deciding on engineering as a career. I was left stranded
in an emotional war, encouraged by a rich man's love and hurt by the poorest of
the poor. The most valuable lesson I learned in school was practical money
management, as well as leadership training. This taught me how to manage people
in addition to reading, writing, and comprehending.
The end results were unimpressive, and I was
disappointed in myself; however, while applying to colleges, I developed a new
mindset. Change is unavoidable, and the time had come for me to embark on a
journey of adventure. No experience and a skewed education from a boarding
school were not a winning combination. Students from a family background were
taught to focus on and pursue family values and careers. They lived in luxury
and enjoyed the aristocratic lifestyle, whereas I had the disadvantage of
moving to a foreign country and being in a position where money dictated my
day-to-day living. Was there a decision to be made about where I should go from
here? I needed immediate assistance and traveled to my grandmother's village.
There, I researched my ancestors. My grandfather was a carpenter and my
mother's father was a potter, so what should I be?
I evaluated the skills I learned at boarding school.I could operate machinery and felt comfortable using my hands, which is probably first and most crucial. This is because I was an operator for a 16 mm projector that showed movies in the school auditorium. I was skilled at playing the sitar, a musical instrument. I was even offered a scholarship to Poland to pursue my interest in art and painting, but I turned it down. I had leadership experience and the ability to manage others.
I struggled with languages, history, and geography,
but excelled in math and science. I used this as a guide to choose my college
courses. Many of the students who came with me returned to their home
countries. Some were homesick and left for sympathetic mothers. Yes, I was
bombarded with opinions and advice.
Wisdom would come not from my age, but from my
education and learning, so I had passed the first stage and making a decision
was critical. I didn't want to make an emotional or harsh decision because my
future was dependent on the very first step in life, which was right after high
school.